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i dont think its a bad age, thats when im planning to have kids.
Most my family had kids before the age of 17. Your sister-in-law sounds like my aunts husband; he said that 25 was too old to have kids and that we should start now and if we do then everyone is here to help. I was like NO, i wanna support my baby on my own, i want to have a house first, maybe be married first, and i wanna turn 21 first too, i wanna party and so on. To be honest im still a kid.
Medically it ok to have kids at 27-30yrs old; the baby should be fine and healthy if so
amuze, is that you?
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i'm 24 with no kids yet
i also get many relatives who say that it's time for me to have kids,
i'm not getting any younger u know the typical "have kids talk"
i believe that i am ready i can mentally & financially take care of a child but
just because i can doesnt mean i should, i will wait til i am married to have kids..
children are a beautiful blessing but
i'll only try to have them with the right man when im married and not because of outside pressure or age concerns..
a few of my friends had kids at a young age,
i'm not saying it's wrong because they are amazing parents, but i choose to wait..
ok i had to start a thread about this non sense. whit all do respect to the ladies that have had a kid at a young age.
but ok:
im 24 with no kids. I don't want to have a kid any time soon due to my personal life [work, school, bills] all those things that keep me away from having a baby.
I was at my house during my lunch brake when my sister in law arrived we started talking about relationships and the famous "baby" talk they all have with me. She started telling me that i should have a kid cus im way too old already and me having a baby at age 27 or 28 is a big No! i let her know my reasons as of why i don't want a kid any time soon and things got a little uncomfortable b/c she started saying all this non sense she had my niece at age 15 personally a girl that has a kid at age 15 is not ready what so ever and as times goes one they will for sure want to go out and party with out giving a damn about the child.
My question is, Do you guys think that having a kid at age 27 or 28 before 30 its not a good decision?
Keep in mind, that around that age most of the people that have a well planed life live well with not so many worries.
Discuss ....
I think this is one of the best decisions you will make.
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Regardless of maturity levels, teenagers have no business making kids in this country and environment. At ages 13-18 you should be obtaining a secondary educating and preparing for college and a career so you will be ready to provide financial stability for a child when you do have one. I could understand living in a farming community in some third world country and having many kids at a young age, different situation.
Kids don't know what they want, much less need, these days. I don't care how "ready" you are; this isn't the norm.
Funny how you define it as "a young parent, and a stable parent" there is srsly something wrong with the way you think.
I had my son when I was 19 so by definition I was still a teenager and my son Is thee smartest 2 year old I have ever known. He talks better than most 4 or 5 year old kids and he knows how to count in English Spanish and French and he learns every thing In the first try. Not to mention he is sweet and polite and just over all adorable. Put him in the same room as a 4 year old with a 30 year old mom and dad and I can assure you he will out smart that kid 100 times over
And what does your son's mental capabilities have to do with anything? That is irrelevant to the subject at hand. The point is that teenagers shouldn't be having kids. Truth is, they're not making life any easier for themselves by raising children. If anything, it makes life harder. Going to school, holding a job, and raising children is quite the burden for any young person. More often than not, the situation turns negative and this could be for a number of reasons. Like I said before, it's not the norm here and I don't encourage it at all.
A mind of a 28yr old is very different compared to a 18yr old or younger. Your mom had lived things that a lot of 18yr old haven't by that being said you were raised in a different environment/mentality. You did not see a lot of things that young parents go thru or do. If you could put two kids in a room 4yr olds one kid comes from a young parent and the other comes from a well stabled parent you will see the differences.
I was totally on point with you until this statement. Age does not define a person, I had my first daughter @ age 20 I was 2 years in my Bach. degree, owned a home, was a mangager of a bank. and very stable. My daughter is very advanced for her age, she speaks well and behaves better than most kids I come in contact with. We don't do the pulling aside in the store and have my kid throwing a fit for some random toy and calling "time out" and still sucking a pacifier, and thier mothers are in thier 30's hmmm well rounded kids huh. Point is your never prepared, but if you know you don't WANT to be a parent just yet then stick to that. But saying young parents are ill skilled is a major misjudgement.
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A mind of a 28yr old is very different compared to a 18yr old or younger. Your mom had lived things that a lot of 18yr old haven't by that being said you were raised in a different environment/mentality. You did not see a lot of things that young parents go thru or do. If you could put two kids in a room 4yr olds one kid comes from a young parent and the other comes from a well stabled parent you will see the differences.
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Originally Posted by Yessy
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if you were to do a study Yessy since your a college girl on teen pregnancy what do you think would come out of it? sincerely not speaking from what you have done with your child. Base your self on real life examples out in the real world not you. How are teen parents now a day?
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