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And you think every young person who has a child is going to be like yourself and handle the situation in exactly the same manner? I'd say your type of young parent is still in the minority. The point stands: most teenagers are ill prepared for the responsibility that comes with raising a child. And the two in this thread who are bragging so much of their successes were basically in their early twenties, a sizable difference in age compared to someone aged fourteen. Most teenagers have little support and usually live with their parents who force them to work. A lot drop out of school or struggle. By nineteen or twenty, most people have jobs, a lot have some college education, and some have places to live on their own. Most are more mature and wise. Keep in mind though, that not everyone falls under this category and not everyone has such a happy ending. (:
If I were to do a study the outcome would be that you are all judgemental assholes that generalize way too much and think your way is te right way. There is no right age to have a child there is no point of financial stability when you can say ok I can have a kid now and everything will be fine. People lose jobs, people have problems where they have to give up a whole lot of money fr something or another. What's gonna happen if you're 29 with a 1 year old and you just got fired or laid off. The same shit that would happen if you're 20 with a 2 year old and no job.
Like I told you it's your choice and it's not wrong or bad buy that doesn't mean because you're doing that, it's wrong or whatever for people younger than u to have kids
I always find it funny when people that don't have kids at a young age make it seem like they have acomplished a lot and that they are better than the ones with kids.
Nope. I just stick to my guns on matters I feel strongly about. This might come as a bit of a surprise to you, but internet forums were created for people to voice their opinions and ideas. Call me crazy, but I think the OP created this thread for people to discuss the matter amongst themselves...
The difference is that the twenty nine year old should have job experience and maybe a degree or two, while the twenty year old is right out of high school and probably living with parents still. I'm pretty sure the same thing wouldn't happen; look at the job market right now. Most employers hiring older people with experience. The older job seekers are basically saying, "Move over" to the young people looking for work. They get hired first because they have held previous jobs and have more experience.
And I never said it was "wrong" for young people to have kids. I just don't think it's a wise idea for someone still in high school to start a family. Oh, and for the record, I never compared myself to anyone here. (:
Of course it's not a good idea I can not argue with that but don't be so quick to judge a persons capabilities as far as parenting and supporting a family because of their age. I get you when you're sayig 14 year old kids and what not but at 20 come on now.
Let's also take the different situations into consideration. I don't think most twenty year olds wake up one day and say, "Well, today seems like a good day to decide to start a family. I think I'm ready." A lot of times, it's an accident and unexpected. And depending on the person, the situation will be handled differently. My point? The success of a few should not represent the outcomes of the whole. I don't know your story, and don't care to know, but you aren't an accurate representation of all young people who have children. There are some horrible twenty year olds out there who only care about themselves. It's not about age, it's about circumstances. And the circumstance here is that most twenty years olds I know are either working and living with parents or studying and living with parents. I'd say at least a half of them are still dependent, and receiving some type of support. I'm sorry, but in these economic hard times, a high school diploma and job at starbucks alone isn't going to be enough to raise a kid.
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