Parenthood ...

[Sillyfj06]

MY opinion
not against anyone nor speak for anyone

im 19yrs and my son will b 4yrs..if i could change back time i could..but i cant i love him and i dont regret having him dont get me wrong...but having a child in a early age takes many opportunities one can accomplish.for instance school, jobs, fun, liberty..etc..are some basic things one cannot do or have when having a child..its too much responsibility now kids having kids is crazy..i know some girls younger than me saying "omg we should have a baby together so our kids can grow together" its non sense...girl its good youre waiting and keep waiting till you know for sure youre ready!!!!...being a mom at age 30 theres nothing wrong with that..i once planned to have my first child at that age well 20's but i guess i went too fast..and now i have many responsibilites to take care of...sooo do whats right for yourself and dont let others take control of you cuz its you whos gonna live your own life....

[KrayzzieRoach]

Originally Posted by TheMainGirl

ok i had to start a thread about this non sense. whit all do respect to the ladies that have had a kid at a young age.

but ok:

im 24 with no kids. I don't want to have a kid any time soon due to my personal life [work, school, bills] all those things that keep me away from having a baby.

I was at my house during my lunch brake when my sister in law arrived we started talking about relationships and the famous "baby" talk they all have with me. She started telling me that i should have a kid cus im way too old already and me having a baby at age 27 or 28 is a big No! i let her know my reasons as of why i don't want a kid any time soon and things got a little uncomfortable b/c she started saying all this non sense she had my niece at age 15 personally a girl that has a kid at age 15 is not ready what so ever and as times goes one they will for sure want to go out and party with out giving a damn about the child.

My question is, Do you guys think that having a kid at age 27 or 28 before 30 its not a good decision?

Keep in mind, that around that age most of the people that have a well planed life live well with not so many worries.

Discuss ....

your sister in law is jealous cuz she couldn't keep her legs closed at an early age, when i meet new chicks, they automatically think I cuz I am 24, i got a kid or 2

[sixflaggs]

dammit.,,,,,,,,,

[shadow aka el colombo]

your sister in law is trippin,trust.

at such a young age you want to have fun and live your life.once you turn 18 you still want to live on your own for a while and do your own thing.like go on a roadtrip and other stuff.stuff that with a kid its more dificult or not possible to do.

its better to wait till you ready to have a kid.but then again most people just dont plan ahead

[monster623az]

Originally Posted by KrayzzieRoach

your sister in law is jealous cuz she couldn't keep her legs closed at an early age, when i meet new chicks, they automatically think I cuz I am 24, i got a kid or 2

I assume most girls I meet have a kid or two, for a while instead of asking if they had any kids id just say how many kids you have...surprisingly lately most of the girls ive been meeting and dating have none.

[RRooxxyy]

have a kid when you're ready & dont let anyone tell u otherwise!

[TheMainGirl]

thanks and like i said i don't plan on having kids any time soon.

Its good to know what other people think. I have a better understanding of what the world is or has become now a day

[i G0T y0U FEENiN']

Originally Posted by TheMainGirl

ok i had to start a thread about this non sense. whit all do respect to the ladies that have had a kid at a young age.

but ok:

im 24 with no kids. I don't want to have a kid any time soon due to my personal life [work, school, bills] all those things that keep me away from having a baby.

I was at my house during my lunch brake when my sister in law arrived we started talking about relationships and the famous "baby" talk they all have with me. She started telling me that i should have a kid cus im way too old already and me having a baby at age 27 or 28 is a big No! i let her know my reasons as of why i don't want a kid any time soon and things got a little uncomfortable b/c she started saying all this non sense she had my niece at age 15 personally a girl that has a kid at age 15 is not ready what so ever and as times goes one they will for sure want to go out and party with out giving a damn about the child.

My question is, Do you guys think that having a kid at age 27 or 28 before 30 its not a good decision?

Keep in mind, that around that age most of the people that have a well planed life live well with not so many worries.

Discuss ....

I Think It's Good That You Are Waiting On That.

[LIFTEDBUICK]

I don't care what anyone thinks....but this whole having a kid when your younger then 20 isn't ok at all. Shit what can you say once you already have the kid but think of the positives. We only live one life why go around holding yourself back cuz you couldn't use protection properly...now your in your teen's and early 20's struggling going to school and working to provide for you and your child. I love having no kids and I know when I do have one I will be satisfied that I had my fun and now it's time to settle down.

[miZz_0ldi3s]

Originally Posted by TheMainGirl

A mind of a 28yr old is very different compared to a 18yr old or younger. Your mom had lived things that a lot of 18yr old haven't by that being said you were raised in a different environment/mentality. You did not see a lot of things that young parents go thru or do. If you could put two kids in a room 4yr olds one kid comes from a young parent and the other comes from a well stabled parent you will see the differences.

As far as this goes I disagree. I have an aunt who had her first kid at 22 after she graduated from high school and was enrolled in college, she was married to a man who was in the army. She is the worst fucking mother I know.. her son in 6 now and living in Texas with his grandparents while she's here in Denver fucking every guy that looks her way. She's had her own apartment for 3 years now and has lived with about 5 guys since then, but never with her child. Her son cant even speak right, much less read or write because she's never been there to enroll him in school and teach him like a mother should.

On the other hand I have a cousin who got pregnant at 14. She is 16 now and has raised her child through thick and thin. She hardly goes out with friends and when she does its to places that she can take her son with her. The few times I've took her out without her son she makes sure I get her home by 9 cause her son can't sleep without her. Regardless of her age she is a great mother and her son is talking a lot now and learning so much from her because she is there for him all the time.

Sadly if you put both of them in a room together my 2 yr old cousin can talk clearer than my 6 year old cousin, and their moms age range from 16 to 28.

I find it funny that you say that most cases aren't like this but in this forum alone so many young mothers can prove that theory wrong. Age doesn't define how good of a mother you are...

Its your decision to have kids whenever you think you're ready, but dont look down upon young mothers as being incapable of raising their own kids